A couple of years ago I took on too much at once. Ever do that? Anyhow, I ended up doing a lot of stuff halfway. I didn’t do a terrible job but I didn’t do any of it with excellence. That is so not me. One day when I was crying venting to Matt, he suggested I pull out of some of my obligations. My initial thought--what?!?! His stance: Better to give the work to someone who would do a great job than to rely on someone who didn’t have the energy to do her best. This was my, “Aha, I need a priority list” moment. Ever have one of those?
If you are feeling overwhelmed, busy, or stressed for time, might I suggest that you step inside yourself and inventory your priority list? Here’s some truth.
If everything is important, than nothing is.
What matters to you and what doesn’t? I literally won’t sleep if the dishes aren’t done; that’s a hill I’ll die on. Does is matter if I don’t know what I’m wearing tomorrow? Not so much. My day will be a disaster if I don’t know by 10 am what we are having for dinner. Do I care if we have hot dogs for lunch? Nope. I will play with my children. Period. Do I care if the laundry is done? It is preferable, but not mandatory.
Here’s my top 10 (in no specific order):
- Good night’s rest
- Quiet time for prayer, devotions, etc.
- Solid, healthy breakfast (really, if I don't get some good protein in the a.m. I am NOT a pretty sight)
- Dinner planned
- Time to play with my children
- Alone time with Matt
- A hot shower
- Dinner as a family around the table
- A clean (looking) house (this is where the dishes come in).
- A chance to visit with an adult
I’m not overly precise and picky about how these are done (meaning my quiet time could be at 6 am one morning and 9 pm the next day. Sometimes alone time and prayer time are done in the hot shower). The point is I have priorities but, though more solid than some of my negotiables, they are still kind-of negotiable.
Are you wondering why a list helps? Well, if you are running out of time, you do your priorities, not the negotiable but you can't do that until you know which are which.
So make a list right now of 10 things that HAVE to get done every day for your day to run smoothly. Think on this; mull it over with your husband. Maybe each write a list and compare them. Create a couples list--what needs do you both have and how can you help one another.
Make your list and then come back here and share it.