Friday, October 7, 2011

Fashion Friday: Orange

Orange. My sister's favorite color--and for good reason because no one makes orange look as good as she does.

But we can try.  And this fall, you can count on varying shades of orange ... from nude peaches to deep burnt orange ... to show up in scarves, sweaters, jewelry, and tights.

For a country-chic look (and to take summer into fall) take a summer dress, add a jean jacket (or cardi), scarf, tights, and boots and WA-LA ... hello awesomeness!

Keeping it light, cool, and super casual (yet so darn cute!)

Beautiful business casual

And as a feast for your eyes, some orange statement pieces I'd love to rock (or that have been rocked well by others!)

So, guess what color I love this fall? Anyone? Anyone? Buellar?

Thursday, October 6, 2011

{Fall} Things I love: SOUP

Can I get a "hell ya" for a hot bowl of soup on a cloudy, rainy fall day?

Seriously, nothing tastes better on a crisp day than comfort food in the form of soup.

My favorite not-so healthy soup recipe came from my mom.  Rilda's Kickin' Chicken Corn Chowder.  Seriously--so good!

And did I mention easy on the wallet?  Frontier Kitchen featured this recipe on Make it Cheap Monday.

Photo and step-by-step directions from Frontier Kitchen

Another hearty soup I can't get enough of is Aunt Amy's Taco Soup.  Plus, you know soup can't be bad if you eat it with Fritos!

Of course last year I featured a whole day on Creamy Tomato Spinach Soup.  This is still a family fave when paired with cheese bread.

Soup is souper!  

(P.S.   See all those blue links?  If you click them you can actually see the recipes.  Mmmmm)

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

What I Think About: Spanking (a re-post)

To Spank or Not to Spank?  What a Scary Question

Spanking is a pretty hot topic and I want Pour My Heart Out on the subject.   What I put here, of course, is my opinion only and should not be a substitute for prayer and research on your part. 

Let me start by announcing boldly that I am not drawing a line in the sand.  I am not saying it is good or bad to spank.  I’ll probably get hate mail for my refusal to be black or white but you should know that grey is my favorite color and my favorite place to be.

So, here are random ramblings related to spanking.

First and foremost, I know that the AAP, Dr. Phil, and Super Nanny are against spanking. Those experts are speaking to a large demographic and given the prevalence of child abuse, not endorsing corporal punishment makes sense. But I also know that these experts are not your child’s parents and they may not have your belief system.

Biblical References

Corporal punishment is mentioned in the Bible.  Here are some verses to reference:

He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him (Proverbs 13:24).

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him (Proverbs 22:15).

Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die (Proverbs 23:13).

The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother (Proverbs 29:15)

My Thoughts on These Verses

First, shepherds used rods to guide and direct their sheep.  At times the crook was put around a sheep’s neck to get it out of crags. Other times it was used physically to direct sheep.  The rod is used metaphorically and it is stated, “your rod and your staff comfort me.” Please note that while “rod” can mean corporal punishment, it can also mean guidance. 

In Proverbs 13:24, parents who love their children are “careful” to discipline them.  Think about the word “careful.”  It means intentionally exercising caution.  In my opinion, if you yell or strike out at a child in a fit of wrath and anger, you are not carefully disciplining.     

Proverbs 22:15 talks about disciplining a foolish child.  I caution you to be aware of the difference between rashly acting or being foolish versus being childish.  Your child will do things that will make you angry that are childish, not foolish.  Spilling milk is childish, not foolish.  Do not discipline your child for being childish—correct them.  Guide them.

Proverbs 23:13 and 29:15 encourage parents not to shy away from guiding and disciplining their children.  You are your child’s biblical authority.  Be their loving authority and advocate. You are responsible to train your child, which might include corporal punishment but also means more than spanking.

Given these verses, I do think that corporal punishment is biblically founded and may be useful when used correctly.  When done incorrectly, spanking can cause humiliation, anger, and bitterness in the heart of your child. It can harm children emotionally and physically, and is child abuse.

Spanking is not prohibited and may be encouraged.  However, you must remember that "everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial" (1 Cor 10:23).  There are biblical guidelines on how to discipline a child correctly. If you are not willing to put time and effort into praying and researching how to correctly discipline your child, please do NOT spank them.

Corporal punishment is a heart issue, not a salvation issue; therefore, I can't tell you that you must or must not do it.  Spanking or not does not make you a good, Christian parent.

What We Do
I went into parenting being 100% opposed to spanking; Matt viewed corporal punishment in a more positive light.  Therefore, we researched and prayed and came up with our parenting style. 

We have spanked our daughter a couple of times in response to severe, repeated disobedience. But more often, we’ve used time-outs, natural consequences, and loving guidance and discussion.

In the end, the decision to use or not use corporal punishment can only be made by you and your husband after a time of prayer and research.

If you choose to use corporal punishment, please read Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp.  This book will instruct you on spanking in a manner that encourages forgiveness and reconciliation. 

Some basic guidelines:

  • Never spank in anger or out of wrath.  Corporal punishment is not about vindication, retribution, or emotional release.
  • Do not spank your child for being childish.  Being disobedient and being childish are very different issues.
  • Never punish in a manner that embarrasses or humiliates your child.
  • Have a conversation with your child.  Try to find out why the disobedience happened and explain why the action was not correct.  Don’t lecture; listen.
  • If the situation requires a spanking, spank your child only on the bottom.  Use one or two swats that sting.  Test on your thigh first.
  • Show your child that it hurts you to spank them.  Encourage reconciliation and forgiveness.
  • Pray with your child.
  • When the event is done, it is done.  Do not re-hash or bring it up.
  • NEVER allow anyone but you and your spouse to spank your child.

What I think about spanking is that it should only be a part of your parenting style, if used at all.
Whatever you do, be consistent, loving, and fair.  If you need resources on biblical parenting I strongly recommend Grace Based Parenting by Dr. Tim Kimmel.

Please note that there is research about spanking that is more science-based (as opposed to faith-based).  I've not discussed that and will leave doing that research up to you.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Days of Play: Paper Mache Pumpkins {Repost}

I posted this craft last year but I loved it so much and the end product was so cute that I'm posting it again this year.  And I'm doing it again this year too!

I saw this craft on a blog and fell in love.  
Photo from Hillside Home
I mean, aren't these the cutest fall craft pumpkins you've ever seen?

You know what I like even better?  You could totally make these with kids of any ages.

Okay, you probably won't want to let your one year old play with the glue but your wee one could rip the paper for you. 

Anyhow, if you want the down-n-dirty on how to create this delight"fall" little pumpkin family with the little pumpkins in your family, follow this link.  Enjoy!

Here are some photos of our pumpkins!  We went with a retro-look in our paper color/selection.  It took M.E. and I about forty minutes to make three pumpkins.




P.S.  For the glue mixture I used equal parts of Elmer's glue and warm water.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Music Monday: Rise Against

Today I am defending my competency exams, a very important step to take towards that ominous dissertation work.  If I pass, I start my research.  If I fail, it's back to the drawing board for more work.

Anyhow, I love all kinds of music including punk.  Rise Against is hardcore punk and they are really socially aware (which means they are PETA loving vegans/vegetarians who aren't opposed to acknowledging systemic problems).

I love these guys and today as I defend, Make It Stop is my inspiration.  If I pass, may the work I do help to make it stop.  And if I fail, may I keep fighting the fight to make it stop.

Make It Stop

Swing Life Away (because hardcore punk can be romantic)

Rumors of My Demise Have Been Greatly Exaggerated (explicit)

A sad fan video with lyrics. {Sigh}