Sunday, March 21, 2010

What cookin' at my house this week? OAMC March 2010

My friend Debb is having her first baby soon so I am doing a huge Once a Month Cooking event to stock her freezer (and mine).

Here's what's cookin'!


Beef:
Tacos
Enchiladas
            In white sauce~
            In red sauce (make as directed in white sauce recipe except pour red sauce over)
Chili-lime rubbed steak+
Asian flank steak*
Italian steak (simply pour bottle of Italian dressing over steak and freeze)
French Dips+
Chili (use recipe on back of seasoning packet)

Chicken:
Cheesey Chicken bundles*
Cranberry Chicken*
Hawaiian Chicken*
Orange Teriyaki Chicken*
Balsamic Chicken Thighs*
Spicy Honey Chicken+
Honey-lime chicken*
Chicken marsala*
Chicken lasagna*
Chicken Penne+

Pork:
Honey pork chops*
Dijon pork loin*
Penne with sausage and tomatoes*
lasagna (use recipe on back of American Beauty lasagna noodle box)

*From Don't Panic Dinner's in the Freezer and More Don't Panic Dinner's in the Freezer
+From Our Best Bites (use magnifying glass to search for freezer meals or search by meal name, such as "spicy honey chicken."
~Recipe on this blog

Grocery List:


MEAT
DAIRY
CANNED
BOXED
LIQUID/JAR
Grnd beef—8#

Roast—2

Flnk stk—8

Pork chops-6

Pork loin—2

Chix brsts--52

It. Sausage—4#
Chik thgs—2 pkgs
3 boxes unsalted butter

½ gallon whole milk

6 oz provolone

32 oz parm

2 bags cheddar cheese shredded

4 bags shred mozza cheese

chive/onion cream cheese (8oz)—4

2-15oz ricotta cheese

4 c. small curd cottage cheese

1 doz eggs

16 oz sour cream
Cream of mush soup—2

3—green chilis

2 large cans red enchilada sauce

2—kidney beans

2—pinto beans

6-14 oz diced tomatoes

3—15 oz tomato sauce

2—8oz tomato paste

1# whole berry cranberry sauce

2—16 oz pineapple slices

2—15 oz mandarin oranges

chicken broth (8 cups)

2 cans beef broth



Manicotti noodles—2

Bread crumbs

2-boxes onion soup mix

3# penne

Am beauty no-cook lasagna noodles--4

3 bags tortillas
Sundried tomatoes

Cider vinegar

Pasta sauce—4 large

2 low sodium soy sauce

white cooking wine

marsala wine

Lime juice

Italian dressing

Catalina Dressing (8oz)

honey

sherry







FRESH
3 heads garlic

2 containers sliced mushrooms

1 bag  yellow onion

cilantro

fresh ground ginger


FROZEN
4-10 oz froz spinach

6 oz froz OJ


STORAGE

Saran wrap

Aluminum foil

40 quart zip bags

30 8x8 foil pans

gallon freezer bags
SPICES
6pkg taco seasoning

kosher salt

paprika

oregano

ground ginger




Please note that these groceries reflect enough feed to make meals for 2 families with 2 adults.  You might need more depending on your family size.  Also, the list is not totally inclusive since I did not include items already in my pantry (like olive oil or flour)

Another great OAMC resource is Once a Month Mom

Saturday, March 20, 2010

New Moon

So today is the big day.

The first day of spring!  Hip Hip Hooray!  Of course it's only 21 degrees in Wyoming and there is snow everywhere but just knowing it is officially spring makes me pretty happy.

It's also a big day because it is my sister-in-law, Libby's, birthday.

Who am I kidding?

New Moon is released today!  My sister and her 9 year old son went to the midnight release party and got me a copy.  My folks are hand delivering it late this afternoon and I'm super excited (Matt, on the other hand, is pretty depressed).

It's so bad it's good.

What are you doing this weekend?

Friday, March 19, 2010

Date night In--Truth or Dare

Okay, this was my favorite date of recent memory!

There are Truth or Dare games on the market but they are a bit too much for me (too tacky, too dirty).

We made our own game.

Here's what you need:

  • Put the kids to bed. 
  • Dress in comfy clothes.  
  • Make a comfy sitting area.
  • Get 40 pieces of paper (20 for each), 2 pens, a hat, and a die
Here's how to play:

  1. Each person takes 20 sheets of paper and writes 10 truths and 10 dares (for a total of 20 truths and 20 dares).
  2. Scrunch up the papers and put them in a hat.
  3. Rather than picking truth or dare, roll a die. Even numbers are truths; odd numbers are dares. (FYI, I do this because I'd NEVER pick a dare!  Ha ha!)
  4. Now take turns drawing out papers and doing what was on them/answering truths!



You can make this sexy and steamy or quirky and fun (which is more our style)!

Some of our dares included:

  • rapping a Christmas carol or nursery rhyme
  • Doing 5 naked jumping jacks
  • Doing a 30 second dance routine


Some truths were:

  • If you were going to get a tattoo, what would you get, where would you put it, and why?
  • Have you ever passed gas and blamed someone else?
  • Would you rather lick a dogs tongue or kiss its bum?
WARNING
This is meant to be fun. If there are issues in your marriage, this is NOT the time to address them (which is my way of saying--don't have truths that say things like: have you ever cheated on me?, etc.)  Also, since you will draw the questions out of the hat, you might draw your own.  Don't put anything in the hat you don't want to do/answer!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Things I Love--Neti Pot

As my dedicated readers know, I was recently sick.  And I'm nursing so my medication use is very limited. Basically what I rely on is Vitamin C, rest, and my Neti Pot.

If you aren't familiar with a Neti Pot let me explain.

A Neti Pot looks like a tea pot.  This is exactly the one I have (I got it for $10 at Walgreens).


When you have nasal issues--dryness, congestion, allergies, stuffiness ... you put a saline packet into the pot and fill it with warm water.  Then you put the spout up to one nostril, lean to the side and forward, and pour water through your sinuses.  Yes.  You pour water through your nose.



The water cleanses your sinuses and clear out mucus (which means you probably don't want to do this in front of anyone).  

I don't smile when I do this.

When you use the Neti Pot you breathe through your mouth so you aren't drowning.  I repeat, you are NOT drowning.

Honestly, there is a little pressure and a strange feeling (like if water has ever shot out your nose) but it doesn't hurt (unless you make your own saline solution with too much salt--which I don't recommend).

With this sickness I decided to put a drop of Johnson Baby Shampoo into the pot with the saline solution to help kill the icky biofilm in my nose.  Worked like a charm.

I know there are a lot of critics and people who would never try this but honestly, it does work.

I LOVE my Neti Pot.  

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

What I Think About--Sex (A summary)


So last week I just shared my heart about sex and I was surprised by the support I received.  Thank you to everyone who shared insights and encouragement.

A few comments from last week really moved me and I wanted to share them and my thoughts about them. 

The first comment indicated the reader was surprised by my Orgasm post, given my profile biography.  My profile says I’m a God-fearing woman who is a part of a Christ-centered home and marriage.  Somehow in the world today, my love and passion for Jesus means that I am supposed to be neutral about sex (and here I am encouraging everyone to work on becoming more orgasmic with their husbands!). 

This 
               breaks 
                                     my 
                                                    heart. 

As I said last week, I believe that sex was designed by God and created to be pleasurable.  How has something that is a gift from God been so twisted that now God’s people are ashamed of enjoying the gift?  What can we, The Church, do to reclaim the gift of sex from worldly perversion? 

In my opinion, the answer is to talk about sex! 

(Did you just hear the Salt-n-Peppa rap song in your head?  No?  It was just me?  Dang it!) 

Why is it women can get together and complain about husbands, moan about mother-in-laws, laugh about potty training mishaps, seek advice on discipline, share birthing/pregnancy stories, and talk about menstrual cycles and breast milk but when it comes to sex, mums the word?  

Is sex really that sacred or are we just scared to be judged because maybe our struggles or issues aren’t normal?  

Can we talk about sex?  I’m not suggesting we be graphic and share favorite positions but surely women, especially Christian women, can come together to share thoughts, concerns, trials and triumphs in the bedroom.  Sex is a gift.  God called it Good.  Let’s stop treating it as though it is taboo.

The other comment I received was from a woman who is very interested in sex but whose frequency desire is not matched by her husband’s.  This woman refers to her situation as “an anomaly” and really it is treated as such.  Even in my own church there is talk about men wanting it more than women and I even read a blog last week that encouraged women to not say no to their husbands for one month.  

But what about women who don’t have this problem?  What about the women whose husbands are telling them no?  How do we handle this in an environment where Christian women are not supposed to want or need sex?  This is a tough stereotype to crack!

I have no answers to this.  But for those readers who might be the women who would prefer to have sex more than their husbands, let me tell you that you are not alone.  More than one woman contacted me about this.  And a few years ago my life group played a version of “The Newlywed Game” (even though we’d all been married at least 3 years).  One of the questions was “Who wants it more-him or her?”  There were 5 couples.  Of those 5 couples, 3 of the women wanted it more than the husbands.  Now this is not statistically sound or anything but I’d consider our group to be very much the norm so if you are a woman and you’d like to have sex more than you do, I think it is safe to assume other women around you feel the same way (even if they don’t talk about it).

Does anyone have a book suggestion that you can recommend that might help women who would like to have sex more but whose husbands are as interested or are physically unable to perform?

So what can we do?  How can women encourage one another?  How can we open up and be raw and honest about our sex lives? 

The comment lines are open.  Please share.  If you’d like to share “out of the spotlight” e-mail me at: whereisthemeinmommy@gmail.com

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Tuesdays Too Clean Tip--DVD Organization


When we moved into our new house I got to design our closets and I gotta tell you, it was dreamy.  In my cleaning closet I purposefully made lots of shelving but with room for my vacuum and floor cleaners below.  It was perfect.
Or so I thought.

Imagine my surprise when my dreamy closet started looking like this!


Are you shocked?  I know--me too!

I feel like I need to justify myself.

Here's what happened.  When we moved we had a TV niche built in above our fireplace.  Great for the TV.  Not so great for the "stuff" that accompanies TVs.  We quickly realized we needed a spot for all of our cords and DVDs and VHS tapes (yes, we still have a VCR and tapes because I refuse to buy DVD versions of Barney that the kids will outgrow in a year anyway!).  My great little cleaning closet became a haven for all the non-sense that didn't have a home in our new home.

Needless to say the closet became a bone of contention in my home.  For whatever reason I was totally unsettled.  So one Saturday organizing this closet was my mission.

I had to be realistic that the closet needed to house items not specifically intended to be there (cords, DVDs, VHS tapes, etc.).  I also had to be creative.  So here's what I did:


  1. I bought bins (for large cords groups) and drawers (for phone cords and accessories).  I also got some baskets for cleaning gear and a car CD organizer.  I spent less than $30 at Target.
  2. I took everything OUT of the closet and grouped them (phone items, Ipod stuff, camera gear, cleaning stuff, dvds, movies, etc).
  3. I tackled individual groups.  I minimized where I could and put items in bins (Ipod stuff in one bin, phone accessories in drawers, camera manuals and cords in another, etc.).
  4. The DVDs were the big task.  I took all the DVDs and covers out of the cases and put them in the CD case.  I alphabetized the movies by genre (Action, Comedy, Drama, Family, and Romance).  I left 4 spaces at the end of each genre to add more as needed (we don't buy a lot of movies).
All of these DVDs fit into one big CD case with the exception of kid's DVDs which I put into a smaller, travel sized case.  Now it goes from closet to car with ease!




This was a huge space saver and I was able to EASILY freecycle the empty dvd cases (though plan B was to call schools to see if art teachers wanted them).


Now my closet looks like this!



DVD cases for kids' movies (which I kept because I'll eventually pass them on) and VHS movies are on the very high, top shelf.

The second shelf is used for DVDs (on the far left).  Technology gadget stuff is in the center, and manual bins are on the far right.

Cleaning stuff is on the bottom shelf.  Big bottle cleaners that need diluted are in a basket on the left and small spray cleaners are in a basket on the right.

Ironing tools are front and center and within easy grasp for Matt.  (That's right, I don't iron.  Domestic goddesses such as myself have limits.  Ironing is mine!).

My watering can is also up front for two reasons.  1.  To remind me that I actually need to water plants 2.  The natural light green tone of the closet just makes the watering can look like a useful but cute accessory.  And who says you can't accessorize your closets!?!

Sadly none of these items are labeled because my label maker is out of paper.  Tragic comedy, I know.

Are you emotionally attached to your DVD cases?  Would you ever consider organizing them like this?  How'd I do?

Monday, March 15, 2010

Days of Play--Ooblich!

Ooblich (pronouned Ewww--blick!) was a staple of fun at our house growing up.  And the cool thing is that it provides huge amount of tactile fun at a minimal cost!

What you'll need:
Big bowl
cornstarch
water
food coloring (optional)
ziploc bags (optional)
cups, spoons, etc. (optional)

What you'll do:


  1. Put cornstarch in a bowl.
  2. Slowly add water and food coloring and mix it together with your hands.
  3. Now play!


This mixture gets very hard when squeezed yet "melts" as well.  It is delightful!

For younger children:
This is pretty messy so if you don't want your little one to get too dirty (or you don't want him or her to eat cornstarch) then you can put the ooblich in a baggies.  The results are the same.

For older children:
Allow kids to stir ooblich and pour it into cups.  Let them pour it out on cookie sheets and manipulate it.

Thanks, SD, for reminding me of this good, clean fun!

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Travel Bug


The Improbable Housewifeposted this and I had to Amen it (and copy it!).  




I love travel (even though I lamented about DH traveling for work.  Really, I wouldn't complain if I was WITH him!)



Do you have any experience with this bug?




Symptoms include daydreaming of beaches, being without children, margaritas, and hiking boots.

My travel bug started young with parents who wanted to go everywhere in the US and Canada.  They took us on super fun trips all over and I loved it.  I luckily married a man who is equally interested in looking at the world.  Now if someone would just finance our passion ...

With the travel bug in mind, and remembering about past adventures, I have questions!  Don't you love questions?  Please join in the fun and let me get to know you better.  Comment away, blog away, whatever your fancy.  I want to read your answers, so let me know if you're stealing this for your blog so I can hop over there and read your answers.

The Questions
  1. Have you ever gone on a trip all by yourself and if so, where?
  2. How many states have you been to and which ones are on your list to go to that you haven't visited?
  3. How many countries have you been to?
  4. Where were you born, and do you still live there?
  5. How many states have you lived in and where?
  6. Would you take your children on an adventure vacation and where?
  7. I would describe my travel bug as...
  8. What was the best trip you ever took with friends?


My Answers:
1.  Have you ever gone on a trip all by yourself and if so, where?
      
     I really, really want to say yes to this but alas, I cannot.  Outside of a day trip to go shopping, I've never traveled alone.  I prefer to be in the company of friends or family.  If I go with a group of gals I can be the person "in charge" but I rest a lot easier if I'm not the leader.

2.  How many states have you been to and which ones are on your list to go to that you haven't visited?
  
     I've been to: Washington, Oregon, California, Idaho, Utah, Nevada, Arizona, Montana, Wyoming, Colorado, Texas, North Dakota, South Dakota, Illinois, Missouri, Virginia, Maryland, New York, New Jersey, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Florida, Alaska, and Hawaii.  I really want to spend more time in New England and I really would like to go visit all the old Civil War battle fields.  

3.  How many countries have you been to?
  
    I've been to: Mexico, Canada, Antigua, United Kingdom, France, Germany, Italy, and the Czech Republic (which was my favorite).  India is my travel go-to dream!

4.  Where were you born, and do you still live there?


     I was born in Wyoming and I still live here (but not in the same town!).

5.  How many states have you lived in and where?
   
     I've only lived in Wyoming and Nevada.  Boo Hiss Vegas.  I'm a cold weather person!

6.  Would you take your children on an adventure vacation and where?


     When my children are old enough (which means they can walk longer distances by themselves) I want them to go EVERYWHERE with us.  It is important to me that we do mission work as a family.  If we are talking fun only vacations, then I want to take the kids to climb Kilimanjaro OR to scuba in the Great Barrier Reef (again, we are accepting donations to fund these trips)!

7.  I would describe my travel bug as...


     heavily symptomatic and disrupting normal eating and sleeping patterns.  Carefully, it's contagious.

8.  What was the best trip you ever took with friends?
  
     Off the bat I want to say my trip to Scottsdale, AZ with my family.  Tilted Kilt??  Anyhow, since the real purpose of this trip was taking my mom to the Mayo Clinic I probably can't use this answer.


Runner up--Spring Break in CanCun and the bus trip to La Isla Mujres (and if you don't get that, it's okay.  Only Megan and Melissa will understand and only they need to!)


Don't blog--leave me a comment with one or two of the answers.  I'd love to know!

Saturday, March 13, 2010

What's Cooking 3/15-3/21

This is officially my spring break from school!  Yes, no homework for one week!  Finally a chance to procrastinate from procrastination.  Yippee!

Anyhow, even though it is technically a vacation time, my family still prefers to eat.  The last few weeks menu has been so wacky and I haven't made everything so you'll see a repeat here.  Thanks for the patience (Randean).

Monday-Cheesy Chicken and broccoli
Tuesday--Roast and veggies
Wednesday-Spicy Chicken
Thursday-Shredded beef tacos
Friday-Garlic Herb Halibut
Saturday-Easy 1 pan chicken and rice
Sunday--Lime-Chili steak with cilantro-lime rice

Friday, March 12, 2010

Missing Matt

My darling husband is an attorney--part of the 1% that don't give attorneys a bad name.  :)

Anyhow, he's been working like crazy as of late and has been traveling a ton.  I want to be that strong independent woman when he's gone but really, I hate it.  I hate being alone at night and making the bed in the morning.

He left early yesterday morning for Toronto (which means the children and I all got sick).  Therefore, I'm running away to my in-laws house so they can take care of me the kids.

I love my mother and father-in-law but they are no Matt.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Things I Love--Real Simple

Every month I count down the days until I open my mailbox and waiting in there under a pile of junk mail, bank statements, and bills is my delightfully thick Real Simple magazine.

My bestie Kim introduced me to the magazine over nine years ago and I love it.  I love the small quotations on the binding.  I love the crisp fonts, the clever contents, the quirky cover photos ...

When I get my new magazine it become imperative that I find 30 minutes to thumb though it.

I have to read the Your Words section first.  Basically Real Simple asks a silly question every month and people send in their answers.  Somehow many of the responses prove that I have hundreds of kindred spirits around this country!  (And just so you know, Real Simple actually printed one of my responses about two years ago--Tthe question: how do you find motivation to exercise.  The answer: sassy-white Bond girl bikini).


Now to be honest, I get a little irritated with some of the features.  Real Simple is great about having an article titled "Affordable Fashion" that highlights slouchy brown boots for $400 (which might be affordable if you aren't living on one income but even then I'd feel guilty.  Don't they know some people don't make $400 a year!).  There are also too many ads.  However, the new uses for old things sections, the recipes, and the organization tips are totally worth ignoring (or trying to ignore) that J. Crew ad for the heather gray deep V-neck sweater.

Real Simple is the only magazine I subscribe to.  It's my once a month 30 minute escape from snotty noses and "what's for dinners?"  In thirty minutes I've laughed.  I've thought about crying.  I've found a new recipe.  I've mentally taken note of what's in style.  I come away refreshed from my Real Simple and Me time.

1 Real Simple
+
30 minutes
_________
Happy Reagan

If you don't want to subscribe then I highly suggest their website.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

What I Think About--Orgasms!

You're probably raising your eyebrows at this post.  Matt thinks it is pretty scandalous because it's a "mom blog."  NEWS FLASH--it's a blog about the roles women play--mom, woman and WIFE.


survey I read the other day said that 30-50% women are upset by how infrequently they have orgasms.

I started to think about this--a lot.  A ton of questions came to mind.

  • Is there some sort of expectation that women aren't supposed to get the same pleasure from sex that men get?  (If 30-50% of men didn't climax on a regular basis I'm pretty sure there would be revolutions).  
  • What does this reveal about the relationship between a woman and her husband?
  • Is it socially not okay for women not to have orgasms "every time?"
  • What affect, if any, does pornography have in all this?

Remember the quote from Outside Providence: "Sex is like a Chinese dinner.  It ain't over until you both get your cookies."?  What happened to THAT mindset?


Freud ruined it.


Freud broke the female orgasm down into two phases: clitoral (pre-pubescent) and vaginal (more mature).    In essence, women who were past puberty and couldn't reach orgasm through penetration considered themselves inadequate.  Thanks for the huge disservice, Mr. Freud because if you aren't self-conscious enough about your body, your boob size, cellulite and your leg hair NOW you can feel bad that you don't have an orgasm the "right" way.  That ought help the mental state in the bedroom.

Fast-forward to the new millennium and pornography is rampant.  Beyond the 50's pin-ups, men now have access to naked women on TV, Ipods, computers ... Sex sells beer and cars and running shorts and dental insurance.  Somehow these air-brushed, fake boob women deceive men into thinking that regular women everywhere are committed to ensuring male pleasure alone.  And I think this can destroy marriages.

In most cultures sex is generally viewed as enjoyment for men.  But I'm gonna be honest here.  I believe that sex was designed by God to be a loving, intimate, and pleasurable experience between a husband and a wife.  I don't think pleasure was intended to be a one-way street.  But that's not how it plays out, is it?  Now sex seems to be about reaching the Big O for yourself--not connecting with your lover.


I think sex has been twisted into a selfish act, not a self-less act.  


Consider 1 Corinthians 7:2-5:


... each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.


This is a deep passage and it is used in a wrong-hearted manner all the time.  Actually, I can visualize some man throwing this verse in a woman's face and demanding sex.  Man, if that is you and you are reading this mom-blog hoping to find a tool to coerce your wife into pleasing you, let me make it clear that this verse does not mean your wife has to submit to your every sexual whim.  If you want to read a verse out of context, I suggest you start with the one about husbands loving their wives like Christ loves the Church


To me, this passage is a celebration of sex.  God is saying--"Hey, I made you husband and wife to submit to one another.  To love one another.  To please one another.  Come together and enjoy.  Drink deeply, O Lovers!"

Husbands and wives are designed to come together sexually to please one another.  Wives please their husbands; husbands please their wives.


So what happens when this doesn't happen?


If the survey is right and 30-50% of women feel like they are duped in the orgasm area, I envision marriages of deep-seated anger and bitterness.  Can't you just see the thoughts that would run through the head of a woman who doesn't feel like her marriage sex life is mutually beneficial: 
  • "great, more sex for your enjoyment," 
  • "sex just isn't a big deal," 
  • "I bet *insert name of actor or guy you work with* is a much better lover than my husband. I bet he could really meet my needs ..."

And when this mindset sets in, sex becomes a weapon.  It's used to manipulate, to control, and to hurt.  What was designed to fulfill,       d  e  s  t  r  o  y  s. 


Is this you?  Have you been there?


If you want to know the truth, this was me.  I've been there.


woman with self-image issues + history of bad relationships + rampant pornography + miscommunication + worldly concept of sex = unfulfilled marriage bed


If you've been there--if you ARE there, take heart because a lack-luster sex life can be transformed with a little help from God.  Is it easy?  No.  Is it worth it?  YES!


The change in sexual enjoyment is a process.  It starts with open communication (yes, this means you have to find a loving way to tell your spouse that you'd like to please one another in the sack more!).  It includes making intentional time together (thus, dating one another on purpose).  It includes talking in bed--what works, what doesn't ...


For me what it really took was God reminding me that I am IT for Matt.  It is my high and holy calling to be the sole female who brings him pleasure (and vice versa).  (Is that how you feel?  Does meeting your husband's sexual needs feel like a divine right or a duty?)  God designed me to be Matt's perfect provision and when I grabbed hold of that truth and burned it on my heart, I was freed of the "I'm not good enoughs" that enslaved me. 


An amazing thing happened, the more Matt and I talked about sex and what we enjoyed, the more we explored one another, the more on fire our sex life became.  I thought he didn't want to please me.  He thought I didn't trust him to please me.  What we've figured out is we both desire to please and be pleased by one another.


If you are broken over your sex life, there is hope.  If you are being held back by past mistakes or pornography or cellulite, there is help.  If you want it and your husband doesn't it, you're not alone.


There are resources and people who will help!


Our favorite resource:
A Celebration of Sex 


Some other sources you might like:
Every Man's Battle 
Every Heart Restored
The Sex-Starved Wife (there are also sex-starved husband and marriage books)
Passionate Marriage (not Christian)


So what do I think about orgasms?  They are created for husbands AND wives to regularly enjoy because they are pleasurable, fulfilling, increase intimacy in marriage, and they knit a man together with his wife.


Here's to celebrating the gift of sex and orgasms with our husbands.  

Kim's 1 Pan Chicken and Rice

Ingredients

  • 4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts
  • 1 box of Uncle Ben's Original Recipe Wild Rice
  • Water
  • Shredded Provolone cheese (or swiss)


Directions:

  • Preheat oven to 350'
  • In a 9x13 baking dish combine the rice, water (as called for in box directions), and seasonings.
  • Top with chicken breasts.
  • Cover.
  • Bake 45-60 minutes until juices run clear and rice is finished.
  • Uncover and top with a bit of cheese.  Bake until cheese melts.


Alternatives:

  • You can cut down the water to 1 cup and use a can of Golden Mushroom soup or Cream of Mushroom to make this a creamier dish.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Too Clean Tuesday--Microwave!

I really like the idea of a clean microwave but at my house, no one--myself included--remembers to cover plates before they get cooked.  Ergo, there is a random mix of crusty pasta sauce, splattered Cream of Wheat, and something else I haven't quite identified.

Shocking.  I know.

When I need to clean the microwave, I let microwave work for me--sort of like a self-cleaning oven.

Here's what to do:

Get a microwave safe bowl and fill it with equal parts of distilled white vinegar and water.
Put it in the microwave and get it cookin' to a rolling boil.
Wipe it out with a clean cloth.

You'll be amazed at the way crusty stuff gets loosened and odors disappear.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Home Made Baby Food?

Nutritious, delicious and a real money saver, homemade baby food is definitely the way to go.  I know you think it sounds overwhelming but you can actually whip up a batch of food pretty quickly.

Here's what you'll need:

  • Fresh fruit and vegetables (think quality here--I totally suggest organic!)
  • a couple of sauce pans
  • a food processor
  • mesh strainer (like you would use for a tea or coffee press)
  • some breast milk/formula
  • ice cube trays (each little cube is 1 oz)
  • spatulas
  • quart sized freezer Ziploc bags (pay the price for the good kind!)
  • plastic wrap
What to do:

  1. Wash your fruits and veggies VERY well.  Remember that there may be pesticides on them so really give them a good scrub.  If your food has peels on it, this is a good time to remove them.  
  2. Chop veggies/fruit to smaller size.
  3. Get water boiling in a sauce pan.  Add fruit or veggies (one type at a type) and boil until mushy.  (You can steam if you desire).  (Remember, not all foods will need to be steamed/boiled.  Foods like kiwi, bananas, and avocado can be mushed without being cooked).
  4. Put the fruit/veggie in a food processor and puree.  For new eaters this should be a thin, creamy consistency with no lumps.  If you need to add liquid you can use breast milk or formula (some people mix the formula with the water the food was cooked in since it will have vitamins in it).
  5. If you made a food with a peel that couldn't be peeled (peas, blueberries) or that has seeds (blackberries, strawberries), strain the food now to remove the seeds/peels.
  6. When the food is cool enough (put in fridge or in an ice bath in the sink to speed this process), use a spatula to scrape it into one of the ziploc bags.  Cut a whole in the one of the bag's corners and fill up the ice cube trays.
  7. Cover the trays with plastic wrap and freeze.  When frozen, pop the baby food out of the tray and into labeled quart sized bags. Freeze.
To prepare:
  • Put frozen squares into a bowl and microwave.  Test to make sure it isn't too hot!
Good foods to start with:
  • bananas
  • blueberries
  • plums
  • apples
  • pears
  • peaches
  • peas
  • carrots
  • sweet potatoes
  • avocado
  • squash (acorn or butternut)
Alternatives:
  • You can use frozen fruits and veggies if you so desire but I'd stay away from canned goods.
  • You can add some flavor to baby food but try to keep salt and additives to a minimum and definitely stay away from seasonings with MSG in them.
  • Be adventurous with grains--whole grain pastas, wild rice, quinoa, cous cous, etc., are great as baby food too (and baby is never to young to eat healthy gourmet!)
  • Remember that baby can eat what you're eating as long as the texture/thickness is developmentally appropriate. If you don't want to make/freeze food then consider purchasing a good food mill.
  • Don't be afraid to add protein.  Cook and puree lean cuts of beef, chicken, beans, etc.
WARNING:
  • If baby is a new eater, only introduce one food every three-four days and watch for allergic reactions.
  • Make sure food is not lumpy for new eaters.  As your baby gets used to eating, you can add more lumps.
  • Be aware of nitrates.  Nitrates are chemicals in water and soil that "stick" to fruits and veggies and get ickier with time.  Therefore, use frozen OR prepare your foods ASAP after purchasing.  Be advised that there are certain foods with high nitrates (carrots, spinach, etc.) so you'll need to be careful when making those foods.  And here is where I plug NOT buying baby carrots.  Get big ones for baby food.  Peel, chop, and cook.
Resources:
There are a lot of baby food making resources out there by my favorite is Once a Month Mom.  This blog offers how to's, recipes, and even menus.  Check it out!

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Days of Play--Floaters and Sinkers Part II

So we accidentally came across this game last Saturday.

In the original floaters and sinkers, children guessed what items would sink in a tub of water and which would float.

This game follows the same idea but with air!

Here's what to do.

1.  Get a helium filled balloon with a long tail.
2.  Randomly grab little things that can be tied to the balloon (spoon, feather, sponge, pennies, whisk ...).
3.  Show your child how some objects cause the ballon to sink while others float with the balloon.
4.  For each item, have your child guess if it will cause the balloon to sink or float.
5.  Test your hypothesis!

To make this easier for younger kids:

Omit the guessing and just play with the balloon.

To make this harder for older kids:

Talk about mass and density.  Need a refresher?  Look here , among other places.  Talk about why the balloon floats.

No Meal Plan this Week

Matt was gone for half of last week and will be gone for half of this week.  Therefore, we'll be finishing up last week's meal plan this week.

Check back for a new meal plan!

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Date night In--X marks the spot

This was a quick, silly, sexy date game.  Minimal preparation.  Maximum pleasure!

You'll need:

  • chocolate syrup/caramel syrup/honey--your call
  • a blindfold
  • a romantic and private environment (we made a bed by the fire after the kids went to sleep! comfy pillows, romantic music, candles, etc.)
  • easily moveable (or removable) clothing
How to play:

  • Blind fold your spouse.  
  • When he can't see, take a sticky sweet of your choice and mark an X somewhere on your body (clavicle, cheek, belly button, palm of your hand, etc).
  • Now your spouse has to find the sweet X by using his sense of smell ONLY.  
  • Repeat with you in the blindfold.
  • If you want to make it a competition, you could use a timer to see who find the treasure the fastest; however, I must admit I loved the anticipation of waiting for the treasure to be found and wouldn't have wanted it sped up!
  • Repeat as many times as you'd like.  Make it steamy or even funny.

Friday, March 5, 2010

Days of Play--Follow the leader

An oldie but a goodie that needs relatively little explanation.

Walk, run, hop, and crawl through the house or yard and have your child follow and mimic you.  Then switch roles.  

For little kids:
With little kids you can do this in a stationary fashion--raise your hand, fake yawn, etc.

For older kids:
Make your movements multi-stepped or more difficult. Somersaults, headstands, etc. (If you can still do 'em!)

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Things I Love--Munchkin Food Mill


So I'm actually crazy about making my own baby food.  With M.E. I spent hours grinding and pouring over organic squashes and sweet potatoes.  I made gourmet fruit mixes like blueberry banana plum.  My baby food processor was my favorite small appliance (well, except for my tea pot).

I started the same process with Mr. Paxton.  The problem is, Pax prefers to eat something with more flavor.  My bland sweet potatoes and chicken baby food dishes don't suit his sophisticated pallet.

Enter my Munchkin Food Mill.  

Whatever we eat, Pax eats.  Seriously.  He's had taco soup, black bean hummus with carrots and rice, chicken stroganoff, southwest beef wraps ...  All I do is throw the food into the Munchkin mill tube, use the base to push it through the grate, and turn the blades.  Presto. Spicy and favorable baby food in minutes.  

If my mill dies before he's need for baby food, I'm totally buying another one (and for $8 I can afford it!).

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

What I Think About: NCLB

Imagine you play on a baseball team and the baseball gurus come out and make this statement--all teams must win.  Even though it's a competition, everyone must win.  Impossible?  Who cares--it feels good to have everyone win so figure it out.  But if you don't win, they'll take away your mitts, and your bats, and your baseballs and finally your coaches.  And if you still don't win they'll tear down your team but don't worry, you can go to another winning team--if they'll take you.  Sound nuts?

Welcome to No Child Left Behind.

Upon first hearing, No Child Left Behind sounds brilliant.  After all, who could possibly think any child should be left behind?  Behind the clever rhetoric, however, lies some glaring problems. 

NCLB has a cynical view of teachers. The law naturally assumes that most teachers aren’t qualified to teach, which likely stems from the assumption that teacher preparation programs are all fluff, and to solve that problem demands that all teachers be “highly qualified.”  While it is true that a great number of students are being educated from uncertified teachers, it is also true that there is a lack of government support to get highly qualified teachers into the places that need qualified teachers the most (read: inner city and poor-rural).  Without increased pay and strong mentoring programs many teachers leave the field.  Many more have chosen to give up their profession because of NCLB’s reliance on high-stakes testing to determine teacher and student success.  Such reliance reduces teacher creativity and the joy of teaching is certainly stripped when teaching is done from a script.

In addition to alienating teachers, NCLB is harmful to students.  Of course the students who suffer the most come from schools that are already under-funded and lack resources. These schools are the first to be labeled as in need of improvement and thus, the already limited curriculum and resources are further depleted as a penalty for not being successful.   Schools that are in academic failure, again deemed so merely by a series of norm-referenced test scores that do not translate to post-school success (and who's the "norm" anyhow?!?), tend to forgo the “frills” in curriculum in order to teach the test “drill and kill” style.  As a result, schools have limited or stopped teaching social studies, foreign language, art, P.E. and other “specials” classes and have also taken away recess and field trips.  Teaching the test, as opposed to “real” learning, has caused a decline in critical thinking skills, general knowledge, and not surprisingly, the love of learning.  Students report high stress when testing which is further exacerbated when labeled members of a “failing” school community.


NCLB harms local school districts.  NCLB increases bureaucracy and makes the process of receiving funding a matter of expensive tedious and burdensome reporting.  In addition, local schools in academic failure long enough are at risk of being completely taken over and run by either state authorities or privately run for profit education companies. To ensure that doesn’t happen, many districts sharply lower standards and limit curriculum.  

So you're asking--some district lower expectations and teach less in order to prove they are successful?  Sad but true.  

In one act, the federal government determined what subjects were relevant, focusing on reading, writing, math and a bit of science while social studies and liberal arts courses were relegated as “frills.”  In addition, the government forced the use of “scientifically based” curriculum even though many of NCLB’s tenants are not developmentally or pedagogically sound (side-note: much of the "scientifically based-research" is funded by the developers of the curriculum NCLB peddles.  Is that fishy to anyone else?).  

With such sharp criticism leveled at NCLB, one is left wondering if anyone benefits from such federal control. The answer to such a question is yes.  Students who have always mattered in the education system—upper class white students (yes, I just said that)—tend to fare well under NCLB.  Wealthy schools have no problems hiring highly qualified teachers and resources are not an issue; therefore, students—and teachers—who have access to these schools benefit from NCLB as more funds are added to their schools along with plaques and praises about being a successful learning community.

In contrast, low-income and minority students do not benefit from NCLB for several reasons.  First, schools labeled as “failing” have a hard time finding teachers, especially those defined as highly qualified.  "Highly qualified" teachers rarely work for poverty-level pay in dangerous or remote locations.  Without such teachers, students cannot be expected to achieve and thus begins a vicious circle of making students fail and then punishing them for it.  Secondly, schools that are labeled as failing are stripped of funding.  Some funding goes to supplemental resources or for transporting students to more successful schools.  The irony is the school that could not afford to have good teachers and resources prior to a fund reduction is now forced to try and boost test scores with even fewer resources.  And regardless of NCLB’s claim that no students are to be stuck in a failing school, many are due to the fact that there are not enough seats in successful schools or such schools are not interested in admitting low-income students who may need additional services to help with language barriers or disabilities and who might very well bring down their test scores (and really, don't even get me started on how damaging this act is to English Language Learners or students with different abilities!). 

Thirdly, the “diversity penalty” suggests the greater the diversity in school, including socio-economic status, ethnicity, race, language, and disabilities, the greater the chance that the school will eventually be labeled a failing school.  Therefore, it is obvious that inner-city schools with great diversity but little funding will obviously “fail” while suburban, well-funded schools with little to no diversity will meet NCLB standards with ease.  Finally, many students in failing schools are simply “counseled” to quit school or are held back with the knowledge that retained students have a higher drop-out rate (Thank you Texas Miracle!).  Many schools simply allow the educational sacrifice of a few students (who bring down test scores) in order to continue receiving funding for other students. 

NCLB’s goal is to provide a good education to all students.  Unfortunately, the act seems to compile the complications of inequality rather than ease them.  I can’t help but defer thought to George Orwell’s Animal Farm where the farm animals notice that the farm had gotten richer without many of the animals being richer—only the dogs and pigs seem to have prospered.  And their community commandments were changed to read, "All animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others."  In light of NCLB, such a satire seems prophetic.


Tuesday, March 2, 2010

A Giveaway worth mentioning

Frontier Kitchen is offering a giveaway of a cookbook called Healthy Bread in Five Minutes a Day.

The chef in Frontier Kitchen requested to share a recipe she made from the cookbook and the owners declined (which is totally their right and kudos to Sarah for asking!) BUT they did offer a copy of their cookbooks as a giveaway!


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As always I'm grateful that Sarah receives no compensation for hosting the giveaway (and that she bought her cookbook to begin with).

If you want to register to win, click here.

Tuesdays Too Clean Tip--LCD Screens

Here's the fast and easy on TV and computer LCD screens.

First, you should never use liquids such as Windex directly on these screens.
Second, you shouldn't use paper towels or harsh wipers as they can scratch the sensitive screen. Opt instead for a soft cotton washcloth or a dry Swiffer.
Just try to wipe the dust off but don't press to hard.
If you must, make a light solution of rubbing alcohol and water and apply it to the washcloth.  Gently rub the screen.

Good luck not ruining your electronics :)

Monday, March 1, 2010

Time Management Junkie--Skill #3--Organize


For my bestie’s 40th birthday party she had a “Clean Sweep” party.  When the invitation came in the mail, my husband said with some disgust, “who would want to clean and organize on their birthday?”  He looked at me (wearing a cheesy smile which he knew meant I was contemplating an outfit to match my yellow dishwashing gloves) and said, “Nevermind.” 

I know you’ve heard the adage, “A place for everything and everything in its place.”  An oldie but a goodie.  If items are where they are expected to be, life flows more smoothly (and you won’t waste anymore time looking for your keys, phone, purse, etc., if these items are stowed in “their” places).

It takes a lot of time to get organized but the result pays dividends.  My kids’ toys didn’t make it into labeled bins on their own.  I had to do the initial work.  But now when M.E. is done playing with her ponies, she finds the bin, puts the toys back in, and puts the bin away where it goes (ok, she still needs a bit of reminding but it takes way less time to say, “remember to put the pony bin away” than it does to clean up a room filled with random toy sets while holding a crying baby and making dinner for guests that are due in about three minutes).

Confession:  I have a borderline obsessive relationship with my label maker and my fascination with bins is not quite unhealthy but getting there. 

I organize with a bin and label system.  For kids the labels are photo-based so the kids can put toys where they belong (and even dad can look at the bin and say, “that bin is for your baby dolls.”).  Adult bins are either color coordinated fabric bins (Matt is tan, I am brown) or labeled with words (“Honey, where are the bandaids?” “In the bin labeled “first aid.”).  I use small baskets for food (baking spices, cooking spices, baking supplies, cake supplies, etc.).  I use mini-drawers to organize cords for IPods, cell phones, and other technology. 

This can all be very overwhelming and I can hear you saying, “but I don’t have time!”  Start small.  Remember you eat an elephant one bite at a time.  Start with a closet or a drawer and then move on.  Eventually everything will have its own place!
In coming weeks I’ll post photos and tips on organizing but there are a lot of resources out there and I suggest you look into them (google keywords like: organize, de-clutter, clean …).

In the meantime, if you have a problem area and you’d like suggestions on how to organize the area, please e-mail me a photo and I’ll offer suggestions.  If you want me to come organize with you, you pay for the travel for both my label maker and me J

P.S.  I didn’t make it to Kim’s Clean Sweep party because family was in town (but I did make it for dinner).  I was so bummed!

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Days of Play--Taste and tell

Get little bowls of several types of foods: sweet, salty, bland, spicy, bitter, sour, syrupy, etc.

Blindfold your child and let him/her taste the foods.  Talk about the different flavors? Which does s/he like?  Which ones does s/he dislike?

Bon appetite!