Wednesday, July 18, 2012

What I Think About: Magic Mike (and Hypocrites)

Magic Mike--The male stripper movie sensation that wasn't.  At least, not really.  Seriously, a movie with a talking teddy bear did better than a movie about strippers.  I'm not sure if I'm relieved or appalled.

All I know is I'm not into it.

My sister and aunt tried to convince me to go watch the movie but I just didn't want to see it.  I told them they were welcome to go but it wasn't for me.

I've had a hard time explaining this because I'm not a prude and I like sex but I'm those things with my husband.  I don't want to go look at other men because it felt dishonoring to my man--the same way it would hurt my feelings if he went to a topless women's club.

Now I know some people are cool with this "look but don't touch" arrangement but I'm not.  And I know I see bare chested men at the pool but I don't go to the pool to watch them and I'm certainly not breaking down any doors to catch a glimpse.  When it comes to my eyes, I do my best to keep them on Matt only.

And then there's the feminist in me who was totally conflicted.  Women being powerful and asserting their sexuality is not a bad thing ... but doing it in the same way men have done it for years--by objectifying people--just didn't sit well with me.  We don't fight objectification with objectification.  Or at least we shouldn't.  Of course I know these actors chose to be in this film and were compensated for their time but it still didn't feel right .  Just like it doesn't feel right to me that compensating women prostitutes makes sex slavery right and justified.

I felt kind of alone if my anti-Magic Mikeness but then I read this blog by Melissa Jenna (<--click that link and read it).  I was wowed by the way she wrote the words of my heart.

There are many levels, spiritual and otherwise, as to why I didn't want to watch Magic Mike and it was comforting to know I wasn't alone.

One area in which I might differ with Melissa is that I'm a firm believer in "heart" issues and "salvation" issues.  Salvation issues are those things laid out in the Bible that are required for salvation.  Heart issues are those pressing topics for which God encourages His followers to question and these are different for everyone.  Some women, like me, struggle with sexual self-image and objectification, and as such--watching a show like Magic Mike could be incredibly harmful.  On the other hand, other women have struggles of the heart that are different.  And this is where grace comes in.  I'll give you the grace to watch what you want (and reap the consequences of those decisions) if you give me the grace to watch (or not watch) what I want (and reap the consequences of those decisions).

I will not and do not want to see Magic Mike for many reasons and I should not be made to feel like a prudish nun for my unwillingness to lust after half-naked men (who aren't my husband).  If your heart is not convicted like mine in on this topic, then I'm okay with that.  You watch what you want to watch; I'll do the same.

What I really hate is this movie is one more way to talk about Christians as being hypocrites because {some} Christians won't see a show like this but will ... divorce at rates similar to those not in the church ... blindly support religious politicians even when they don't walk the walk ... shut down abortion clinics without offering financial, emotional, and physical support to those with unwanted pregnancies ...

Let me let a BIG cat out of the bag.

ALL Christians--yes that's right--ALL CHRISTIANS are hypocritical.  Yes we say one thing and do another (there's even a Bible verse about that).  But you know what else?  EVERY other person in the world is a hypocrite.  Can you name one person {not a religious deity} who has always, in every circumstance, been totally straight-forward and who has never been a hypocrite?  How about the mom who tells her kid not to lie but then lies (in fun) about Santa at Christmas?  How about the Republican who wants to balance that budget but spends bazillions on a war?  Or that Democrat who wants equal pay for women and yet the women working in his White House make 70% of the men who work there?  Or the man who tells his child to be a good sport and then screams at the referee?

We are all hypocrites people.  Get over it.  Find a new argument.

What I think about Magic Mike is I am over it (and judging by the box-office slump, so is everyone else).  While I am open to conversations challenging one another in our beliefs about watching, or not watching, such shows and discussing what is (and isn't) pornography, I really hate the conversation focusing narrowly on how hypocritical Christians are without fully examining how hypocritical ALL people are.

Phew.

The end.


9 comments:

  1. I love it! My two sisters went to see it and I said the same thing. NO I am not judging them for going. But if my husband told me he was going to see a movie about female strippers I would kick him in the arse! NO WAY! I don't find it empowering that I can do the same smutty thing "some" men have been doing forever. ANd great point on hyporitical. I say the same thing! I am in no way perfect (not even close) but I am trying to make good choices. Love the heart issue idea too!

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  2. I have absolutely no interest in seeing "Magic Mike" (or "Ted," for that matter). I don't have enough time or money to waste on seeing bad, boring movies -- no matter what the subject. My personal philosophy is that whatever I watch or read should add to my life, not make me feel like I've wasted time by partaking. So I took my kids to see "Brave" and boy did we like it!

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  3. I'm a Christian, I value and respect my husband and my marriage, I saw it, and I enjoyed it. Artistically-speaking, I thought it was actually a very well-made movie, if not a little predictable. It was also a lot of fun. Would I actually ever go to a male review? Probably not. But watching a movie about one in no way made me feel disrespectful toward the sanctity of my marriage.

    Just goes to show... to each their own.

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  4. The church is full of hypocrites because the church is full of people. Often no difference between those who don't go to church and those who do other than some have God's forgiveness for their sins.

    I went to see Magic Mike. With my husband. We were cracking up laughing in some parts and majorly bored in others.

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  5. I didn't see the movie mainly because I didn't have time. I'm sure it will end up on one of the cable movie channels and we'll be blasted with numerous occasions to watch it then.

    But I totally agree with the hypocrite part...people who live in glass houses and all you know! :)

    Mindy @ New Equus
    http://newequus.wordpress.com

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  6. I'm not going to watch the movie because I feel the way you do about it but I do especially love making Magic Mike jokes since stripping is how Channing Tatum got his acting start.

    I'll keep my "Magic Khale," you keep your "Magic Matt" and we'll both be boring nuns together, okay? :)

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  7. I really, still, have no idea about this Magic Mike business. I don't follow mainstream anything anymore. I thought Channing Tatum was a girl....

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  8. I agree with you. That movies like this are even made drives me nuts...and we wonder why people don't know how to treat others with respect and not just as sex objects!
    Michelle
    http://normalchaosforamultitaskmom.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-beauty-of-rose.html

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  9. I have no interest in that movie at all. I don't really know why. The idea of strip clubs and what not doesn't really bother me, and stuff like that. If my boyfriend really wanted to go, I might feel uneasy but it wouldn't bother me too much. I guess I'm just not really one who likes to 'look' a lot. I can tell, and will often acknowledge when someone is good looking, male OR female, but nothing excited me about going to see a stripper movie with good looking actors. I'd much rather see a movie that makes me laugh or cry.

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