On Monday Matt and I were at the VA with my dad waiting for his minor surgery and we had to listen to some awful talk show with several female hosts (Darlene from Roseanne? Molly Ringwald? What is going on with daytime TV?). Anyhow the question they were discussing was "do you check up on your partner's web use?
ALL of the ladies admitted checking their partners' facebook/twitter posts, etc. However, they made a big deal that they do not check e-mails or ever log onto their partners' accounts. In fact, they stated they do not share passwords because if you are checking on your partner then the relationship has "bigger problems." One woman even said, "If you go lookin' for trouble, you'll find it. I'm not going looking."
Well, this discussion took place in two minutes and obviously killed half my brain cells but it did get me thinking---should we share our e-mail/social networking passwords with our partners?
On one hand, I think no. Relationships are built on trust and if you ask for my passwords, I'll think you don't trust me.
On the other hand, if I have nothing to hide, why would it bother me? Relationships are also built on accountability and who better to keep you accountable than your partner?
Just being totally upfront here, I know Matt's passwords and he knows mine. I do NOT get on any of his sites or accounts because I'm checking up on him. I have, however, on occasion gotten on to retrieve an e-mail receipt or to find something for him. I trust Matt but I also feel secure knowing that he is trusting enough of me to be accountable with his sites. And vice versa.
I guess for us, passwords are like fire extinguishers. We keep them in the house but don't use them unless there's an emergency.
What I think about passwords is that sharing them helps promote trust and accountability.
What do you think? Do you share your passwords with your partner? Why or why not?
Thanks, Shell for letting me Pour My Heart Out on your blog.