Love is not ... a record keeper of wrongs.
I'd be lying if I didn't say I totally struggled with unforgiveness. It feels so powerful to be in the position to forgive someone--or not. But unforgiveness is not healthy for us!
Examine your heart. What people/instances cause you bitterness or pain? Reflect on a particularly painful memory and ask yourself, "have I forgiven them?"
If you harbor resentment and an unwillingness to unforgive, consider what it is costing you. Does it make you bitter? Do you think about the person/situation over and over? Does it cause you to be angry? Do you feel burdened? Hurt? Betrayed?
These feelings are the bad fruit of the sick weed of unforgiveness.
It is hard to forgive. Sometimes it feels impossible. If you are in a position where you feel you simply can't forgive, then say a little prayer "God, help me to forgive." He can and he will, if you are willing to be open.
FOR YOUR SPOUSE:
Ask your spouse to share with you a hurt you have caused him. Don't defend your actions; don't justify bad behavior; don't belittle his feelings. Ask to be forgiven.
FOR YOUR CHILDREN:
Today model forgiveness for your children. If they are disobedient and require correction, discipline them but be quick to offer forgiveness. If you do something wrong, seek out your children. Apologize and seek their forgiveness.