I hope that from such posts you know how much I value romance and dating my husband.
Why then, would I say "Ewwwwwwww!" when it comes to Valentine's Day?
Well if you want me to be honest, I think it is a commercialized holiday. Who was St. Valentine? Beats me so why would I celebrate it?
I think Valentine's Day is nothing more than a way from companies to sell over-priced cards filled with sentiments we didn't write, candy companies to pawn off red, heart shaped boxes of chocolates to guilty husbands buying last minute because they forgot the holiday anyway, and restaurants to be filled with couples forcing the intimacy issue because today is, after all, Valentine's Day.
Some will say that it's just a day to celebrate love and if that's what it is to you, more power to you. But I'd rather have the romance and intimacy mindset year round rather than wait for a "holiday" to tell me what to buy and what to wear, and where to go to be "romantic."
Though I generally protest Valentine's Day as a matter of principle, this year I've decided to take a different approach. If I want my love life to be a mindset, why not practice what I preach?
I'm sure many of you have heard of or done the Love Dare. The Love Dare is a forty-day intimacy increasing idea from a low-budget movie called "Fireproof." I'm NOT doing the love dare. I know a lot of blogs are posting elements of the Love Dare for free and I disapprove of that; it robs the authors' of the rights. So, if you are looking for a way to do The Love Dare for free, you'll need to find another blog.
I am, however, taking a basic idea--looking at scripture--and creating dates, acts of service, gifts, and personal challenges from what I read.
Everyday from now until Valentine's Day I'll be posting a "challenge." On Valentine's Day I'll plan a special time of love and intimacy to celebrate meeting my challenges.
Hopefully this activity will make me cultivate the skill of intentionally seeking out my spouse, build my character, and improve our marital intimacy--one day at a time.
Join me, if you dare! If you do, please put the LOVE IS button on your blog so we can connect!
(P.S. I will have a "caveat" on each challenge if you would like to do the challenge to make you a better parent!).
LOVE IS... Challenge #1
The first challenge address this issue: LOVE IS PATIENT.
Take a moment and journal what you think patient is. What does patient look like?
Think of a time you have been patient. How would that situation have been different if you were impatient?
Think about a time you were impatient. How did it turn out? What would have been different if you were patient, instead.
Are there certain things, as related to your spouse or kids, that make you impatient? Make a list.
Pray over the list. Pray that today you would not be impatient with your husband or kiddos.
FOR YOUR SPOUSE
Think of a game or activity that takes quite a bit of time. Tonight, block off a certain amount of time and spend it engaging in an activity TOGETHER than requires communication, time, and patience.
We'll be playing chess!
FOR YOUR KIDS
If you are like me baking/cooking with your children can be stressful. Today make something in the kitchen with your kiddos. Remind yourself to be patient and have fun!
If cooking with kids doesn't ruffle your feathers, consider giving your kids a SUPER LONG, BUBBLY bath or playing with Play-dough--surely I'm not the only one who gets in a tizzy over those activities!
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