Obvious answers come to mind. I'm thankful for my husband, children and family. I'm thankful for a safe car, a warm house, and good health. I'm thankful for a job I love and blog readers. I'm thankful for spiritual freedom, the blood of Jesus, and my right to an education.
But this year something else came to my mind.
What I am most thankful for this year are my mom friends.
If you've ever read Things I Can't Say, then you've heard of Motherbitches.
Shell and other bloggers have done a great job of telling you "You might be a Motherbitch if ..."and I'd encourage you to follow the links and read them (for a good laugh or in case you are afraid you might be one...)
There are a lot of motherbitches out there and to be honest, they are the reason a lot of women don't have many mom friends.
I can't count the number of times I've heard people say, "Oh I tried a mom's group but I couldn't handle the gossip" or "Other moms are so judgmental."
I really feel bad for people who haven't made good mom friends because my mom friends are very often the single factor in my life that keep me sane.
About four years ago I co-started a mom's group with three other gals: Jenny (our fearless leader), Beth, and Alicia. We get together for playdates, craft nights, and girl's night out.
We've celebrated pregnancies, warmed new houses, supported deployments, mourned miscarriages, counseled marital problems and taken the Twilight premiers by storm.
Our group varies by religion, socio-economic status, political affiliation, and ethnicity. Some moms work outside of the home full time, part time, or not at all. We have biological children and adopted children. There's not a single motherbitch in the group!
We are not the same but we make it work.
At no time did we develop "rules" in our group. For some reason we've all just clicked and common sense has kept us from forcing our opinions too strongly, belittling parenting styles, and talking smack about other moms (or other children).
I love my mom friends.
- I love that some days my house is a wreck and these women don't care. They'll even help me clean it after the kids wreck it more.
- I love that I can be myself with them and even though I'm TOTALLY overwhelming, they don't seem to mind.
- I love that my children have grown up with their children.
- I love that what I say in confidence to them, stays a secret.
- I love that when I'm having a bad day, they understand.
- I love that when I flip my lid, they've have been there.
- I love that we can talk about poop and sex and knitting without it feeling weird.
- I love that there is someone there for me when I need them.
- I love that we all have strengths and weaknesses that we are willing to share/own up to.
What I think is that I have been abundantly blessed by my mom friends.
A special dedication to: Beth, Jenny, Sarah L., Krista, Jenn, Sarah M., Kelly, Sarah K., Kim, Alicia, Rachael, Andrea, Amanda, Rene, and Kristen.
You ladies make me a better mom and woman and I wouldn't want to ride the mom roller coaster without you!