When I was in high school we had this teacher who wouldn't let us say "suck" and in the early nineties, everything sucked. This teacher's solution was to say "hoover"--like the vacuum that, well, sucks--literally. Can you see me saying "My hair hoovers today?" Not likely. The gal who wants to make "fetch" a cool word in Mean Girls totally reminds me of this situation. Anyhow, this always irritated me because the intent of what to say was the same even if the word wasn't (as in, if there wasn't an adult here I'd use a much nastier word to describe this assignment).
Fast forward to my teaching days. My students always said "crap" and I got into a heap of trouble for allowing it (really, crap was nice compared to what I heard in the halls). Again my thought was this. 1. It is better than other words they could be saying (like the ones in the halls) and 2. Even if they say "Oh crumb" instead of "oh crap," the intent is the same.
I'm going somewhere with this. Trust me.
On Wednesday M.E. and I had one of those days. She whined. I lost my temper. There was yelling and much needed alone time for cool offs. But I definitely remember stomping around saying "I'm so frickin' mad!" I really don't use the big F word so frickin' is my stand in F word (like suck and crap). Perfectly harmless ... right?
Last night after I finished my run I found Matt and he was in a fit of giggles. He and M.E. had been playing pretend in her room and she started stomping about saying, "I'm so frickin' mad!"
It didn't sound quite so harmless coming out of her mouth (though we could laugh at her amazing portrayal of mom).
Of course God chooses this moment to remind me of my Bible study. I'm in 1 Kings reading a whole list, starting with Solomon, of families that continue to do wrong and sin because the sons are following the lead of their fathers. Funny how I only think of the "train a child in the way he should go" verse when I'm doing something right!
What a delightful but convicting reminder that my children will learn about faith and trust and obedience by my words and actions.